Friends, Enemies, Homosapiens...Lend me your ears!!

In the wake of a failure to communicate lies a lack of willingness to acknowledge and accept. Often ignored are the crucial factors that contribute to the revelation and separation of what was, from what is, and what will be. The difference between what one WANTS and what one NEEDS is no different.  The process by which one becomes aware of that fine line is the first step down the path, allowing all that was written to come to pass. Accomplishing said task is far from a simple feat, however, with the right amount of attention to detail the means by which to distinguish become clear.

This separation should exist in the aspects of one's life that weigh the heaviest or determine the most. In relationships, por ejemplo, you have the basic...give/take, sacrifice/compromise. But the defining characteristic behind making these adjustments is your reasoning.  Is it to acquire what you want or what you need?? The difference... For some, it is as simple as deciding between what you can and can't live without. Exhibit A: "I can live with someone who doesn't have a car, but not with someone who doesn't have an education." Exhibit B: "I can spend my life with someone who can't cook, but not with someone who doesn't have manners." Exhibit C: "I can be with someone who's not D.D.G. (drop dead gorgeous) as long as they treat me right." What you NEED should supercede what you want (consider it a matter of life and death), and what you WANT will come to pass so much easier once your needs are met.

But even these simple examples, must be fine tuned over time.  What you want/need from a relationship when you're 20, should not be exactly the same when you're 30.  Via trial and error (I believe most call it "dating"), by 30 you should know what's working from what's not. What's healthy for you and what's not. Who's doing it for you and who's not, literally. Don't just live in "the weeds," letting life pass you by, racking up partners with nothing to show for it. Pay attention to the failures, fights, the arguing and the break ups, and find something to learn from them because there's a lesson in everything. Sift through the superficial, outer layers of B.S. and get to the heart of the matter, even if you come out realizing you're the one at fault. Take that realization and apply it, to life, work, relationships, whatever it is that means something to you.

And then keep it real...

Ladies, if you know you're a bitch, don't say you NEED a good guy, 'cuz we all know how that's gonna end. With you walking all over him and then getting bored. What you NEED is a man who likes bitches. They're out there!!

Fellas, if you know you're a dick at times, don't say you NEED a good girl/Christian woman. 'Cuz the ending to that...we've all seen on Snapped. What you NEED is girl who's attracted to assholes. They exist, I swear!

More to come....